Where I’ve Been

I have been really slacking in my blogging career these last few couple weeks and I’d just like to explain myself. This past month has been hectic and crazy. As a college student, I was in the midst of finals, moving out, moving back home, saying goodbye to my boyfriend, switching churches, my boyfriend visiting at home, and participating in a two-week social media cleanse. *sigh*. Okay. So, yeah that’s just the summary of everything I’ve been handling since May. Praise Jesus for my survival. This time off from writing was sad but needed. I needed time to focus on the important things in life and get through it, which just so happened to work because in this time I also accomplished a lot. I finished my freshman year of college with a 3.4 GPA, I started working again, I got to sightsee New England with my wonderful boyfriend. I got to throw my sister a birthday party, take my brothers to numerous soccer games and swim meets, and spend so much quality time with my grandparents. Life is too short to spend it behind a screen 24/7 but I’m back. I’m ready to write and I’m ready to use this platform as a source of the good news of Jesus Christ. New posts will be on MONDAYS, as I will be using Sunday as a day of worship and work. I appreciate every single one of you that continue to support me and read my work. I love you all endlessly. Keep me in your prayers and I’ll keep you in mine – Alexis

Week 18: List the Things That Motivate You

  • God
  • My boyfriend
  • My friends
  • My future family
  • My future career

 

Motivation is something I lack in a lot of places in my life because I enjoy living in the now but my brain can’t help but wonder sometimes and think about what my future holds. I do well in school to glorify God but also to make sure I can provide for myself and my future family. I want to make sure that everything I do has a positive effect on my future life while also glorifying God. . . which can be difficult. This means I can’t cheat on tests or copy someone’s homework to cut corners in order to receive a good grade. . . I actually have to study and work hard. When it comes to my health, I try and maintain a healthy lifestyle so I am able to glorify God with my temple but also so my future husband has a nice piece of arm candy (partially joking). I also just wanna make sure I am healthy enough to be able to run around with my future kids. I never want my health to hold me back from being a good mom. Motivation is something some people struggle with more than others but I thoroughly think if you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, that’s all the motivation you really need. – Lex

Week 17: List Difficult Times That Have Made You a Better Person.

Well essentially all of life is a difficult road but I will share with you the three biggest life changing moments thus far in my 18 (almost 19) years of life.

  1. My parents had once gotten ahold of my twitter and didn’t like what they were seeing so they forced me to work in our family restaurant as punishment. I suffered from a lot of anxiety, missed out on a lot of school events, and missed out on the joys of high school because I had to serve some sort of punishment. Working there gave me so much more confidence and boldness. I had to talk to people, yell, get things done, multitask, and all while not losing my cool. It was not always easy but I can certainly see how much more confident I am now compared to three years ago.
  2. Being bullied all through my school career. People are just downright cruel and mean in school! I was picked on for everything from my clothes, my hair, my body, my face, who I was talking to. It didn’t matter. Those times taught me about perseverance and fighting for justice.  I kept going to school and learned to face these people head on and to eventually just let whatever they say roll right off my shoulders. I treat everyone equally and with respect because I know how it feels to be treated like a “less than” simply because I wasn’t like everyone else

3. I believe when my brothers born was a difficult time for me as a child. I had divided attention between my parents, my sister was already stealing the show, and now two little bundles of joy had come in to scoop up the scrapings of attention that were left for me. My parents worked a lot after they were born so I had to step in and be parent #3. It’s stressful and overwhelming. I always felt like I had to grow up so fast because my parents needed me. Although I was having the joy of being merely seven years old ripped right out of my life, helping raise those two little dweebs was probably the most beneficial to my life. I became more patient, compassionate, loving, and nurturing. They helped shape me and now even at eighteen years old, I still love seeing life through their eleven-year-old eyes.

When times get tough, trust me when I say God has plans for you. He will take care of you! He can turn dust into diamonds. He can use difficult situations to make us BETTER. Trust in the Lord. He’s got this. – Lex.

Week 16: List Your Essentials

  • Toms from Maine chapstick
  • Better than Sex mascara from Too Faced cosmetics
  • My black Toms shoes
  • Mint gum
  • A reusable water bottle
  • My Bible (duh.)
  • My black Kate Spade crossbody
  • A black pen
  • A mini notebook
  • Face moisturizer
  • A contact case ( Fun Fact: I am as blind as a bat)

I love making these kinds of lists. I love those “what’s in my bag” videos on Youtube. I try to keep it small and simple because life is not about stuff and after I watch one-too-many videos I find myself wanting more and more. I think it is important to only have essentials but do not be afraid to splurge every once in a while for a new companion. Hope you all have a fabulous week. – Lex.

Week 14: List The Ways You Can Cleanse Your Life for Spring.

  • Go through your closet and sell (or donate!) any used clothing and shoes.
  • Wash all your bedding and pillows
  • Spring Cleaning!!! Empty our all those junk drawers
  • Remove any toxic people from your life
  • Repent of any built up sin that’s been eating away at you
  • Start reading some good books
  • Cut out any unhealthy foods from your diet
  • Get a fresh haircut

Detoxing your life does not have to be some big over the top extravaganza. It can be as simple as changing the throw pillows on your couch or as big as tearing apart your entire home and remodeling but what is important is the change. Change is good for the soul. Good change can be uplifting, spirit boosting, and down right fun. Spring is such an ideal time to make little (or big) changes in your life. So why wait? Throw in some new things and get rid of everything that is holding you back. Enjoy all that Spring has to offer – Lex

Week 15: Your Dream Trips

  • Italy – Every Major tourist spot + My mother’s hometown
    • I am a first generation American on my mom’s side and second generation on my dad’s. I come from a long line of pure-bred Italians and I would love to see where my roots come from
  • Bahamas
    • I love anything tropical, warm, and surrounded by water.
  • Hawaii
    • We, as Americans, have the privilege to have a tropical island be part of our country and yet hardly any of us visit. I love their culture and I find it so beautiful. Also, My favorite Christian family, The Bethkes, live there and they are awesome.
  • Disney World
    • I’ve already been here but it’s Disney.
  • Any Third World Country
    • It has always been my dream to serve people in places that need it most. I actually almost signed up for The Peace Corps before applying to college. I have such a need in my heart to give to those parts of the world.

God gave us such a diverse and magical planet to live on and I find it sad when I hear people never leave their hometowns. I crave travel and if I had the money I would’ve seen all of these places by now. I think if you have the means . . . you should be seeking these other parts of the world. Learning and seeing new places, cultures, and people help us grow as people and we get to become more enlightened. My challenge for you is to make your own list and then set up a little fund for your first trip. Even if it’s just traveling to the state next to yours. Just go. – Lex.

Week 13: The Things That Always Cheer You Up.

  • My boyfriend
  • Facetiming my favorite cousin
  • Seeing my best friend
  • Peanut Butter
  • Finding money I didn’t know I had
  • Someone asking me how my day is
  • Nice Weather
  • The beach
  • Painting on canvas
  • Watching my favorite movie
  • Seeing family I don’t see very often.
  • Listening to 90’s music

When we get angry it is so easy to get sucked up into our own misery. It gets easier and easier to sulk and let the bad emotions consume us. Make your own list of things that always cheer you up and give them to the closest people in your life so they will know how to pick you back up. Also, remember these yourself so you are able to resolve any inner issues going on with some simple things in life that just make your heart warm. It is so amazing to me that little things in life can make or break you so it is so important to remember the good things to recover from the bad. Stay happy and stay cheerful – Lex.

Week 12: List All Your Best Qualities

  • Empathetic
  • Sympathetic
  • Nurturing
  • Determined
  • Funny-ish
  • Considerate
  • Minimalistic
  • Loving

I think society has made us feel shameful for “loving” certain parts of us. If you like the way you look you are conceded, if you like your personality, you are full of yourself but the reality is, an all-powerful God made you and you should appreciate certain attributes about ourselves. I think in a world full of put-downs and negativity we need to love ourselves but without boasting. It’s important to not make these attributes our everything because we don’t want to become conceded or full of ourselves but instead use these traits to benefit others around us. Use your humor to bring cheer to someone’s day or your nurturing trait to comfort someone in need. We were given these traits as gifts from God to use for good. It is so important to discover your gifts and utilize them! I challenge you to write down everything you love about yourself and tape it to your mirror as a constant reminder of all the good you bring to this world. – Lex.